Category: Everything else

There was a period in the past decade when it was cool to be what I describe as being a “soldier” at work – work at all odd hours, sacrifice sleep, chug coffee and take naps in the office. We are at war, always. Over time, this approach to work has gone out of vogue. There’s been a lot of research on the importance of sleep and the “work life” balance idea is trending.

The way I see it, there are 2 ways in which you can operate –
– The soldier way is the path I’m referring to above. In this mode, you are constantly at war. You can’t afford to rest because your cause would fall apart without you. Boundaries are a bad thing.
– The general way is where you deal with the reality of war very differently. You take control of your work, actively set boundaries and expectations and learn to work with others (often soldiers :-)) to do what needs to be done. Being a good general requires a degree of calm, mindfulness and focus.

Here’s the catch – the soldier’s way is the default path. You need to be very intentional to change your mode of operation. And, if it isn’t obvious as yet, you can operate like a general even if you are a soldier by rank and vice versa. This isn’t about titles. This is all about how you work.

So, why does this matter? I find it worth remembering that it is soldiers who die in battle. Generals don’t.

… then, forge your own path.

And, when you do so, do so with conviction. Just because a certain approach worked for someone else doesn’t mean it will work with you. Very few people rarely know better. Those who do have just gotten to be good at guessing. And, they’ve gotten to be good at guessing by making many bad guesses.

So, things will definitely not work as per plan. But, it is better to be sure, wrong and open to change than to be perennially in doubt.

At any rate, you’ll become a better guesser..

Everyone knows integrity should be in mission statements. Very few know why. Most know integrity is a trait that good people exhibit. Very few again know exactly what that means.

So, let’s break it down – integrity derives its roots from integer. Instead of referring to a “whole” number, we refer to people who are “whole” or consistent. People who are whole or consistent walk their talk. Or, in Stephen Covey’s words, they make and keep commitments. There is no other trait that characterizes good character as well as integrity.

Today, however, I’d like to focus on integrity at work. Every project we work on should have a one-line goal. This goal explains why we’re doing it and what our desired outcome is. If we’re working on five projects, each of them should have a one-line goal that makes sense. You can term it the mission statement of the project. But, since mission statement often requires explanation, let’s just term it a one-line goal. In a well-run company, all of these projects will further the company’s mission as well. So, if one of your projects is to invest in your development, that would further the company’s goals of retaining people. If a project doesn’t have a one-line goal, shelve it. It isn’t important.

Once you understand the one-line goals for each of your projects (and this often takes a bit of work and thought), priorities should emerge. It should become obvious as to which project will create maximum impact. Depending on the goals of your group, this could be a long-term bet or a shorter term move.

And, once you understand the one-line goals and the priority, you are now ready to do something very simple – attribute colors to your priorities on your calendar. So, if you spend an hour working on priority one, mark out an hour and color it red (for example). If you took a meeting on priority three, color it green, etc.

At the end of the week, sum up the number of hours you spent on each of your priorities. While you are at it, also sum up the number of hours you spent in meetings vs. doing solo work that made the meetings productive. Ideally, 2 things should emerge –
1. You have invested time in accordance to your priorities
2. You have spent at least as much time solo time on your most important priorities as you have spent in meetings

When you show up at work, you implicitly commit to furthering the company’s goals. You do this by committing to furthering your goals. Every minute spent on your most important goals is productive. Everything else is gravy. The more time spent productively, the more time you spend exhibiting integrity in your work.

And, integrity, both in work and life, is a sight to behold.

I’ve been using the excellent Headspace meditation app over the past 3 months. Unlike my last tryst with the app 2 years ago when I repeatedly fell asleep (!), I feel things are going much better on the whole. However, I found myself wondering this morning as to whether I was making any real progress. As I did that, I stopped myself.

There are many metrics that are easy to measure – money, promotions, number of friends on Facebook etc., number of gym memberships – and, for every one of these, there are metrics that are hard to measure – success, impact, depth of relationships, fitness. I am reminded of Clay Christensen’s anecdote about parenting. While it was easy for him to measure success in his career, he found it very hard to gauge if he was doing well as a parent. It is only after his kids turned 20 that he finally felt satisfied that he’d done a good enough job. Even if there are many apps that make it easy to quantify aspects of life that were not quantifiable before, many of these ideas will continue to be hard to measure.

My experiences have taught me that the actions with metrics that are hardest to measure are often the most worthwhile. These are the sorts of investments you make in yourself and others which, for the longest time, don’t seem to have any impact you can see or feel.

Until they do..

Borrowing a framework from Stephen Covey, we move through 3 stages in our lives – Dependence -> Independence -> Interdependence. The Dependence years are marked by childishness, the independence years are marked with rebelliousness and the interdependence years mark adulthood.

There are 2 phrases that best mark the transitions between the stages.

Stage 1 to 2: “I can’t blame other people for where I am. I need to take responsibility for my own life.”

Stage 2 to 3: “I can’t do this alone. I need to work with and give to the people around me to build my family/career/community/life.

If we can’t accept responsibility, we are no better than kids. If we don’t realize that this is all about building things together, we’re no different from adolescents. These stages have little to do with age. Dependence alone is guaranteed with birth. The rest totally depends on emotional maturity that we choose to acquire over the course of our time on this planet.

Age advancement is guaranteed. Growth is not.

I have a simple checklist item on my to do list in gray (gray = no pressure) that I see every morning. It just says “charge phone.” There is the rare day when my morning reset hour gets disrupted. But, that aside, for the most part, I typically see that checklist item and put my phone on charge.

I am a huge fan of checklists for repeatable tasks. Items like “Blog,” “Read feedly,” “Clear email” are examples of gray checklist items. These items ensure I start the day with a consistent clean slate. I’ve just moved to a new location as of yesterday and I can definitely feel myself still getting into the groove – evidence of that is in the morning list as I only managed to get through half of what I’d like to get through yesterday and today. I’ll get into routine soon enough.

These simple small wins at the start of the day always bring happiness with them. They make for an easy check on the to do list as I ease in. And, they also give me the feeling that I am ready to dive into the day without little worries such as whether my phone is charged. And, most importantly, they reduce variability. Feeling disorganized and unsettled is a real barrier to a clear mind. And, all good things start with a clear and focused mind.

.. is noticing things others miss. The master chef notices the presence of an extra ingredient that makes the dish special, the master footballer understands the power of that extra touch, and the master presenter observes the little things that help make the presentation a hit.

I think the same applies to those who master living well. They notice the little things that make days great, they really appreciate people who make their lives better and, most importantly, they learn how to listen to themselves and interpret the signs their gut, heart and mind sends them.

Mastery begins with learning to observe deeply.