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Choosing a Disciplined Approach vs Discipline

‘What you need is not discipline, but a disciplined approach’ said David Allen aloud as I was listening to ‘Ready for Anything’.
As is the case when I hear a nice excerpt these days, I generally pause the book and make a note on my phone. I really liked the sound of this little line i.e. choosing a disciplined approach vs discipline but I didn’t fully understand it.
It was only when I decided to take up the whole ‘Wake up at 5am idea’ that I recalled it. And here’s how this 1 line changed my approach.
Before
– Focus would be on waking up at 5am
– I would end up sleeping at normal time and waking up at 5am the first day
– Result: Sleep deprived and less energetic day = lower momentum
– I would have persisted for a couple of days but after a point, I would begin to oversleep and chuck the whole idea out of my mind.
– Of course, this would be accompanied by the usual combination of kicking myself, finding an excuse etc etc.
After
– Focus shifted to – Get 8 hours of sleep AND wake up at 5am. (The math makes it simple now = Sleep at 9pm (WOAH))
– So, I began slow – Sleep by 10pm and wake up by 530.
– Result – Slept eventually by 1030-11 and woke up 530.
– Managed 3 out of 5 days in my 1st week.
– Next, I slowly began sleeping at 10pm. And again, kept up 3 out of 5 days for 2 additional weeks.
– And, finally, yesterday, for the first time, I managed to sleep by 930. Woke up at 530am today feeling fully rested and great. First time ever!
– And, as a result of the focus, any day I don’t get 8 hours of sleep, I prioritize the 7-8 hours of rest versus waking up early. Therefore, I hardly feel the pressure.
This is similar to playing a game. Now, we are not focusing on the game, but instead – focusing purely on the preparation. Here, the game is waking up early but the preparation is really what happens the previous day – Finishing up work on time, eating on time, sleeping on time etc.
Can this get better? Absolutely. But, as you can see – the big difference was the focus on the approach versus crazy discipline. And, all of a sudden, I have something more sustainable and most importantly, something more fun.
It is the same with tackling any life problem. Yesterday’s book learning was about the David Allen Framework – the framework looks daunting on first glance. But, I remember that when I started, all I focused on was getting the 1st step right and then taking it a step a time.
Ages ago, it was once suggested to me that I was probably going too easy on myself with the whole ‘a learning a day’ idea as it implied that it was okay to make mistakes the first time – even if they were simple and unavoidable. That is true. It may not be ideal. (What is?)
But, I also believe it is FAR more sustainable in the long run to take baby steps and to apply constant, consistent and predictable pressure on ourselves. And that way, you also have the opportunity to have fun along the way AND build a blog AND learn a heck of a lot from that experience as well.
That’s killing many birds with one stone. Happy ‘disciplined approach’ this week, everyone!

On the David Allen Framework

This week’s learning draws inspiration from Ready for Anything by David Allen.

Last week, we dealt with 5 things that get in the way of us being productive. This week, we will continue on the productivity journey.

In the picture below, we have David’s 5 step process beautifully illustrated. David’s 5 process involves:

1. Collect: Put in all your thoughts in the ‘Bin’ or collection tray.
2. Process: If actionable, decide on whether it is a ‘2 min’ action or ‘project’. If not, ‘trash it’, ‘someday it’ or ‘reference it’
3. Organize: If it is a ‘Project’, then decide outcomes and break down the actions.
4. Review: Decide if you plan to ‘do’, ‘delegate’ or ‘defer it’.
5. Do: Get it done!


On first glance, this can look VERY daunting. My suggestion –
1. Read through the whole illustration 3 times and understand it.
2. Plan on implementing 1 step every week!

This system works incredibly well and applies not only to tasks but also to email. More on that next week!

Here’s to ninja-like productivity this week!

The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Home-mates

We all share space. And whether it is family, partners, friends or acquaintances, sharing space is always a challenge.
Here are 7 tips that might help you make that house feel like ‘home’.
1. Keeping a world-beating attitude: Let’s face it – things are often shitty. Running a house is never easy. There are always bills to pay, maintenance that is pending, cleaning and laundry to be done. And sometimes, you even land up in a house that is significantly worse than your previous one.
Now, we can never wear a smile on our face every single moment. But, having a positive attitude is a great step to maintaining a great environment. There is absolutely no replacement to being a positive, happy person.
2. Saying ‘Please, sorry and thank you’: Pleasantries are named thus for a reason. They help keep things pleasant. And we need lots of pleasant.
3. Doing dirty work, and doing it in teams: There is always a lot of dirty work to be done in a house. Whether it is taking the dirt out of the vacuum cleaner, or cleaning the bathroom, being the first one to volunteer always helps.
And if possible, doing it in teams always creates a great bond!
4. Keep your own work space: We all have different styles of working. Some like keeping cluttered work spaces while some like it spotless and clean. It is VITAL to keep your own workspace – an area that only you touch, clean and manage.
This greatly helps keep sanity. If you have your own room, then that’s perfect. But, if not..
5. Lower your expectations: Not everyone has the same filters as you. You are going to be disappointed by people’s cleanliness, their inability to do many things that come naturally to you, and vice versa. Also, it is amazing how people have their own unique approaches to cleanliness. Some, for example, can tolerate messy cupboards but cannot tolerate an unkempt workspace.. and vice versa.
Let it go. It’s easier to ‘be a light, not a judge’. If you are a stickler for cleanliness, try this. Try leaving your room or space dirty for once. Hard, isn’t it?
That’s how hard it is for an untidy person to be clean. While being unhygienic is never an excuse, it works best if you develop blind spots for areas of the house that you don’t use.
6. Keep candor but never embarrass someone: Candor is often overlooked. And this is what results in fractured relationships between roommates from time to time. When sharing space, it is obvious that it helps overlooking many small annoyances, it doesn’t help skating over big issues.
Talk about it. Express it. But never embarrass someone – that generally leaves a scar.
7. When you are brooding, stay out of everyone’s way: We are all going to have periods when we experience the ‘blues’. I call this ‘brooding’ time. This is great for us as we always feel better after a period of brooding but not so much for those we come in contact with.
If you are brooding, there’s many ways you can keep people informed – warn them/stay out of their way/put a sign on your desk that says ‘Brooding Time’.
And this works the other way around. If you sense that your home-mate is brooding, let them be. They will snap out of it in few hours. Just act as if nothing happened. This happens every once in a while with all of us and it is very normal!

How do you treat your body?

Our body is one amazingly engineered system. If we ever want inspiration for designing systems, there can be few better examples. Consider the wonderful warning systems we have in place –
1. When we’re feeling tired, it’s a signal to sleep
2. When we’re feeling gas-sy, it’s a signal to head to the bathroom
3. When our muscles pain, it’s time to lie down
4. When our stomach begins growling, it’s time to eat
And many more such little signals..
The big question is – do we pay attention to them?
We all know we need food every 4 hours (roughly), 8 hours of sleep every night (90% of us), aerobic exercise every other day atleast – but how many of us do it?
And my guess is that the better we treat our incredible machine, the better we do.. in whatever do.
I have hardly ever come across an unfit/unsuccessful successful person. (no matter what the field).

The Big Action Challenge Report Card: A Paradigm Shifter

I had blogged about ‘The Big Action Challenge’ 3 or so weeks ago. This was thanks to a newsletter from Robin Sharma suggesting 17 steps to double my productivity.
Here below is a detailed report card on how I did –
(Click to enlarge)
Now, the toughest part of this was the ‘Wake up at 5am’. In truth, 5am became 530am but this in itself was a paradigm shifter. I have been an ‘owl’ all through my life – ever since my 8th grade in school, my only life saver during exams was the night prior to the exam. During university, I learnt that the last minute doesn’t quite work so well. And now, I am learning that waking up in the morning is quite something else!
As I’ve mentioned in the card, I’ve managed it 3 out of 5 days every week i.e. 60% conversion rate which is not bad. Could it be better? Absolutely. The positives to take away are that I’m gradually getting into the habit of sleeping at 10pm or before. And I plan to improve this in time.
The benefits have been the positive –
– My mind is full of great ideas in the morning and running about and exercising gives me more time with them!
– Nothing like starting the day with exercise. Traveling to work feels great!
– A little bit of Caffeine is good for the brain. And now I generally start my day with a morning coffee. Never drank coffee previously..
– I get to work on my blog etc before getting to work..
– The days are MUCH more productive.
For evidence, here is a look at the week’s scores from my R15 system –
Week 65: M, T and T are 5am days
Week 66: M, W, F are 5am days
Week 67: Vacation!
Week 68: M, T are 5am days. And I can bet today’s score will be higher than the 17.5 I made yesterday.
(This is aside from the fact I raised my daily target from 16 points-18points – which already felt like quite a stretch!)
This exercise has been a real paradigm shifter and I am looking forward to keeping it for life. Let’s see how it goes!
Stay inspired. And have a great Friday!
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Update here: I was right. Today WAS super productive. The score would be ’24’ – a clear winner!

Sport shoes enroute to-and-from work

Thanks to a tennis class near work and my new early morning routine , I ended up wearing sport shoes to work, changing into my formal shoes and then changing back before going home. This way, I didn’t have to carry an extra pair of shoes every once in a while. (All great inventions arise out of lethargy and laziness after all)
The big realization here is that this has turned out to be very positive. Here’s why –
1. My route to work involves a fair amount of walking, some climbing stairs etc and my hard leather formal shoes are not meant for extensive walking on roads
2. After a while, formal shoes tend to tire the legs while sports shoes do the opposite.
3. I feel like I’m going to play! And I can feel my soles bouncing off the ground thanks to the nature of the shoes..
I thought this was pretty cool. It is not without downsides however. I had a couple of friends wonder if it is okay to wear tennis shoes to work. But I’ve decided to keep this little quirk as it has added quite some positivity. And, of course, I wouldn’t feel normal if I didn’t share it here..