The term “Growth mindset” inspires images of a wonderful journey full of positive momentum and learning along the way.
The daily reality of attempting to live it is anything but. It is more likely we come across words like – bump, imposter, dissatisfaction, questions, uncertainty, obstacle, surprise, a punch in the gut, fear, and stretch. Lots of stretch.
A nice illustration of the contradiction is this Doghouse Diaries comic. :-) The Growth mindset in our mind vs. what it really is.
The bad news is that it doesn’t get any easier.
The good news is that we learn to deal with it better, can ask for help when we need it (and we will need it), and that things that come easily are rarely things we value.
A perspective I hold and share often is the idea that, after a point, it’s all upside.
To me, that point is when we
are healthy – physically, mentally, and emotionally
have reliable income or wealth to afford a good roof over our heads, food/daily necessities, and some outlet/fun from time to time
love and respect in our close relationships
The interesting thing about this idea is that more of us are at this point than we realize. It’s just hard to recognize that when we’re stuck trying to maximize one of these areas. For most of us, that area tends to be our careers because the rewards are easily measurable.
It is totally fine if we intentionally choose to maximize our careers. Internalizing the upside idea just means we do it from a place of gratitude, security, and kindness.
It changes how we behave on and experience the journey.
And, in the final analysis, the journey is all we have.
As of today, every adult in California is eligible for a COVID-19 vaccine appointment. As amazing as this is, the path to finding an appointment means navigating 8+ health systems/vendors. Anything but straightforward.
In response, Mukesh Aggarwal – a software engineer – spent the past month building and refining an app idea. This app looks for appointments across all of the provider websites in the SF Bay Area and sends an hourly update on a Telegram channel (details here). Over the past few days, the number of people subscribed to the channel grew from a few thousand to tens of thousands.
I am one of those subscribers. I turned on the app and my notifications on Wednesday. Within a couple of hours, I had booked an appointment for Friday morning. Smooth.
San Jose Planning Commissioner Rolando Bonilla contacted Mukesh and requested him to add East San Jose – an area with among the highest infection rates.
In a CBS article, Bonilla later said – “To me, Mukesh is a hero. This is the time to rewrite the rules and aggressively partner up with people like Mukesh in the private sector, to see how they can actually help. Because they’re wanting to, they’re willing to, but counties have to open those doors in order to make that a reality.”
Indeed. Mukesh has done a wonderful service to the community. He’s also offered his code for anybody who wants to build it for their area.
And, Bonilla’s notes on rewriting the rules resonated. Seeing ideas like this come to life do point to the potential of government organizations partnering with individuals willing to pitch in.
Morgan Housel has been on a blogging tear over the past months. So much so that I was reflecting on why I love his posts so much.
I realized that it was came down to his penchant for telling captivating stories. He had a great post on the idea the importance of telling “the best story.” He clearly walks the talk.
Today, he had another great collection of stories. The one below stood out.
Dr. Dan Goodman once performed surgery on a middle-aged woman whose cataract had left her blind since childhood. The cataract was removed, leaving the woman with near-perfect vision. A miraculous success.
The patient returned for a checkup a few weeks later. The book Crashing Through writes:
Her reaction startled Goodman. She had been happy and content as a blind person. Now sighted, she became anxious and depressed. She told him that she had spent her adult life on welfare and had never worked, married, or ventured far from home – a small existence to which she had become comfortably accustomed. Now, however, government officials told her that she no longer qualified for disability, and they expected her to get a job. Society wanted her to function normally. It was, she told Goldman, too much to handle.
Every goal you dream about has a downside that’s easy to overlook.
When things go wrong, multiple things tend to go wrong together.
On our worst days, they can generate a compound effect if we let it. That one thing may have been okay. But, combined that thing with a second and third thing and you’ve got trouble. And, that trouble could mean losing our cool and causing a fourth thing to go wrong.
If you’ve had one of those days, take heart and smile. Even this will pass. There’s no point getting frazzled and making it worse. Better to pause, regroup, and focus on doing the basics right.