Don’t say yes when you want to say no

“Don’t say yes when you want to say no” | an RJ whose name I don’t remember

I have a vivid memory of a lesson I learnt from a Radio Jockey/RJ over a decade ago.

My mom and I were driving down the streets of Chennai. I think it was sometime in the evening. Turning on the radio wasn’t something we did often. But, on that night, we did.

That’s when we heard this RJ share a story about a recent incident when she said “yes” to something when she really meant to say no. She shared how that ended up making both her and the person she said yes to unhappy.

When we’re half-hearted about something, it shows.

The lesson she took away from that incident was – “Don’t say yes when you want to say no.” Even if it feels hard to say no, it is the right thing to do if our heart isn’t in it.

I’ve thought about that lesson hundreds of times since. Often, when I find myself in a situation where I’m reluctantly saying yes, I ask myself if I’m saying yes when I want to say a no.

And, ever so often when that happens, I hear that RJ’s voice saying – “Don’t say yes when you want to say no.”

PS: I made a mistake while publishing yesterday’s post. So, we have two posts today. :)