A few weeks back, I’d shared a note on “learning to reset” –
After reflecting on a year of attempting to “seek to understand and then to be understood,” I realized that my ability to do so seemed to decline through the day. I write a quick note at the end of the day with an assessment of how I did. And, I found that I was most vulnerable to interrupt-itis at the end of the day. This is especially the case if there were a series of meetings in the second half.
As a result, a skill I’m working on is learning to reset during the day.
My thought process at the moment is that my ability to listen gets lost as I flow unconsciously through the day. And, teaching myself to reset would be a reminder to be conscious about how I approach the next section.
This sounds great in theory. But, I’ve struggled, so far, to execute on the idea. So, as is usually the case, I’m writing about it to clarify my thinking on it and make a public commitment to do better at it.
I hope to have more on this in a few weeks.
I do have an update. After a couple of failed attempts, my current working solution is to run a recurring 30 minute timer through the day.
Every time I pay attention to my phone vibrating, it reminds me to take a deep breath and reset.
I pay attention (versus simply notice) 20%-30% of the time now. The next step is to increase that sense of awareness to 50% of the time. It feels doable thanks to this process. And, I’m hopeful these resets will help me become more aware of my impatience in conversations – 30 minutes at a time.
More to follow in a few weeks.