another one in those long line of phrases that are easy to give as advise but very difficult to execute. Well, its not easy not to take it personally. Let’s take a common situation when you are yelled at without having any idea what happened or why it happened. Now, it so happens that you have been making a conscious effort to do things as straight as possible. But, something goes wrong and the circumstances are truly beyond your control because even when retracing your steps, the situation and your actions refuse to add up and make sense.
What’s really important to understand at this point is that; much as it may seem like you are the one being attacked, you aren’t! I mean.. why would anybody want to do so? Generally, people have better things to do in life. ;)
Again, easier said but execution wise, what that really means is to take time off – If you are feeling really bad, I’ve found sleep to be a very good solution. Because inevitable, when we feel bad, we lose motivation to do anything and its much better we sleep it off and wake up fresh and raring to go. Now, I also feel it helps talking about it if it is really really bad but it is equally pointless if we go and talk to our mom/friend/boss and say we didn’t enjoy being screamed at. Duh! Of course they know and in all probability, they didn’t enjoy it either. What’s really good to understand is that the reason these guys choose to spend time with us is because they love seeing our cheerful side and that’s why they help us out when we are in trouble – so we can get back to being ourselves. So, lets just take a quick time out and get back in and start kicking all over again..
and that’s the bottom line.. coz stonecold said so!
I’m sure all of us have experienced the dread of having mountains to climb in terms of tasks and yesterday’s learning took a brief look on what could help. Today’s continues on the same vein. As I am discovering, it is definitely a good idea to separate it into a set of next steps on your favorite place(notepad, post its etc) and figure out a course of action(same as setting priorities)..
This works on the argument that we can only focus on one thing at a time anyway and we can only do that many things in a day. So, the hard part is just deciding the priority/order. Anyway, I’ve just only gotten through a small bit so there’s still lots to do! :)
Ah! here we go again. This one is again task list based. Over the past 2-3 days, I’ve found myself prey to the task list which is way too long and hence, ended up not getting started on anything! Well, the best thing for me to do from tomorrow is make sure I stick to the assigned priorities and do them one thing at a time. Maybe, get back to notepad(which works for me!) and see to it that they are split into daily goals. Right now, it seems all too overwhelming!
The chinese were incredibly wise when they said that ‘ a journey of 10,000 miles begins with a single step’!
This is the second time this learning is coming but extremely vital considering I’m still jumping off the blocks and knocking things over. Today, an email was sent a tad too early and sadly emails/like words can’t be taken back.. speaking of which a lovely story does come to mind!
There was a young kid who used to always throw fits. This kid was always angry, yelling and throwing a fit at the slightest instance. One day, his father, fed up of the behavior asked the child to hammer nails into the wooden wall at the back of the house everytime he was angry. Gradually, the child began to take great pride in not hammering nails and finally came to his father and told him it had been his third day in a row when he hadn’t gotten angry. At this point, the dad asked him to look at the wall. He said – ‘Son, you see, while you have conquered your anger – the wall will never be the same again, even if you try to remove the nails! Remember, it works the same way with words..’
just say ‘God. I guess you’ve had a very bad day.. I don’t understand what’s going wrong and am sure we can talk about it..’
attract! Not true in the magnetic sense but very true in the human relationships sense. Nice insight into psychology that says if you’d like to be liked, then try and focus on similarities..
Contrary to popular thought..but psychologically true.. and more importantly, it makes sense! Aren’t we all excited when we meet people who support the same football club for example – all of a sudden there’s just SO much more to talk about..
Good. That means you’ve stood up for something, sometime in your life.” – Winston Churchill
I found myself meandering through a long post about something I’d learned from the law of averages. And then..just undid what I wrote and wrote this. We can’t be liked by everyone, can we? After all..its all about the law of averages.. ;)