A Learning a Day

We take a sample/draft of previous work, copy it and start editing it..

It feels better than staring at an empty document seemingly bereft of ideas.

Good to try I think!

‘Copy, and then find your own style’ – was the advice from a mentor when asked about what’s the best way to learn leadership..

Maybe it’ll work here as well? Time will tell..

Good morning. Have a nice day! :)

Today brought together a couple of not-so-good results from the past.

But, work wise, was as productive as I could have hoped for.

What I have realized is that things take time and the results were a result of a not-so-good day a week ago or so. So, the results from today should flow in too..

The good happens when we don’t let the bad result feeling spill and spoil the on-going good day. I think I managed to avoid that.. just.

Once again, some things take time.. sowing seeds is the best option for today! :)

This is Dag Hammeskjold week. :)

Good morning have a great day! :)

For the next time we hug someone..

Let’s just hug..

Forget the worries – life is full of them, and just hug..

Full on, hold tight and not let go.. (till the person on the receiving end says – Hey, you’re strangling me.. That’d be a start..)

Not the quick 2 second timed touch-and-go hug..

Not the 1 sided put-arm-around-the-other-person’s-shoulder hug..

Not the acknowledgement of oh-yes-we-need-to-touch-other kind of hug..

But, the give-myself-completely-to-the-other-person kind of hug..

What are we afraid or wary of?

That our vulnerability is going to be touched?

That the people watching will take a photo and put it on facebook? or gossip about it?

For the same sex, that is it is gay? What about our macho footballers then, who hug and kiss each other when they celebrate a goal? Is that gay?

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Hug..

Let’s leave a small piece of ourselves with others..

Because we never know when we’ll need it back..

and besides, it’s our ability to love that makes us humane – not just human, but humane

and most importantly, when we look at our life’s defining moments, it’s little things like this that change the course of our short stay on this planet..

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Over to FYP (a.k.a final year project for the uninitiated) now. Pity it isn’t human and pity hugs don’t work.. :)

9 women can’t make a baby in a month..

And this applies all the more with big decisions we take. When we do take these big decisions, it often takes some time to digest them and let them sync in.

I guess the most important learning is – ‘Let it!‘

With people – fast is slow and slow is fast..

Some days you are the pigeon and some days you are the statue..

Do we like to accept it though?

A nice framework I’ve heard about when it comes to accepting tragedy is DABDA

i.e.

Denial – Obviously it didn’t happen..

Anger – Generally, with the world..

Bargaining – Obviously, things can be the same again..

Depression – Realization and sadness..

Acceptance – Finally.. only now comes solution..

This could be applied to making big mistakes as well. However, ‘denial’ can always be misused as even a person telling the truth can be mistaken as someone denying it.

Good morning.. Have a great day! :)

And an even better week hopefully.. :)

Ha ha ha..

I said this to a friend and I found it rather hilarious..

Guess it’s good to crack up at your own (poor) jokes once a while. :D

Happy Monday early morning everyone! :)

I try sending out a weekend book learning email to close family and friends. It is a way for me to remember the learnings from books (i.e. non academic) read during the week and to make sure I do read as well.. Here is the edition for this week. :)

1) Sparkz fly when insecurities meet: This means that insecurity is at the root of every resistance/argument/issue. For example, if we find ourselves resisting or taking a stand and refusing to compromise on something, it just means we are insecure about the issue and it is time to recognize it.. This can be one sided or 2 sided.. A one sided example is when we get frustrated like when we try to help someone and they refuse to be helped and in fact, oppose what we do.

A two sided example is a typical argument between a kid who thinks differently and a more conventional parent. The reason this can go wild is because the kid definitely has insecurities about his identity and place in the world while the parent may have insecurities about whether he/she has been a good dad/mom.

So, the next time we see ourselves losing it – let’s try to pinpoint what we are insecure about..

2) When in an emotional argument, use the (red) Indian walking stick strategy: The basic principle here is that when in an emotionally tough conversation, the person speaking has a stick and the person who wants to go next will first have to clearly describe what he/she felt the first person talked about and only when the person feels understood does he or she pass the stick to the next person for their point of view. This is one way to ensure everyone is listening empathetically..

3) With people, fast is slow and slow is fast: Basically, the efficiency vs effectiveness paradigm. There is NO point being efficient with people…