Category: Everything else

When we think about behavior change, we often think about creating new habits/systems. This is why new year resolutions are popular. “New year, new me” and so on.

However, we’re far more likely to be successful if we find ways to incorporate new behavior by amending existing systems.

For example, I know I need to drink more water during the day. The new system approach would be to set alarms to remind myself to drink water. The amending existing system approach would be to drink a bottle after I wake up, at the end of my workout, after lunch, and so on.

The reason amending existing systems works well is because it leverages existing momentum vs. attempting to create new momentum.

This is also how products that attempt to change user’s workflows are made. We are always better off tapping into existing workflows and then making changes vs. attempting to force people into new workflows (which rarely ends well).

Start by modifying existing systems. Then use that momentum to create new systems.

A friend shared a lovely note on developing an understanding of a domain.

Once you learn enough about a domain, you develop a deep appreciation and understanding for the complexity involved.

And as you continue learning more, you move past that complexity and develop the mental models that make everything simple.

You’re able to sift through the noise and find the signal.

There’s simplicity beyond the complexity. It is when knowledge becomes looking more like wisdom.

There are two key ingredients to finding creative solutions to problems – being clear about the outcome we want and to having a small list of things that we’re unwilling to compromise on along the way.

Clarity of outcome helps us both visualize success and rally people toward that goal.

The small list of things we’re unwilling to compromise on is the constraint function. This is why it works best when the list is derived from first principles. Such lists are small and ensure we don’t saddle ourselves with unnecessary constraints.

Together, these ingredients both define the goal posts and the length and breadth of the playing field. Once that is defined, it much easier for teams to figure out the best ways to put the ball into the net.

One of the toughest temptations to avoid when we’re building for our users is to ensure we’re always focused on acute problems that our users have.

When users have acute problems, they’re generally very vocal and are using workarounds to get their job done.

That ensures we don’t spend time building interesting solutions for problems we wish they had.

It is easier said than done.

Inspired by Good Energy, I’m trying out a CGM or Continuous Glucose Monitor for 4 weeks. It’s been eye-opening to see how my body metabolizes carbohydrates. A few early notes –

(1) Movement after meals helps metabolizes carbs. This is simple – but seeing it in action is eye opening.

(2) The absence of such movement results in carbs getting converted to triglycerides. Our body has evolved to do this to use as stores of energy during times of famine. That isn’t relevant today. And all we’re left with is heart trouble.

(3) That then leads to the next learning – eating foods with high glycemic index requires a lot of movement after the meal. So, eat as early as possible in the evening. For example, fully metabolizing a half cup of white rice takes an hour or so of walking. The process can take two hours or so. Red rice can cut this metabolism time by 25%.

I’ve reflected on this a lot as I had the bad habit of not moving after eating. Or worse – sleeping.

(4) The ordering of nutrients helps a lot. Starting with nuts, greens, or protein and then ending with carbs makes a big difference to these glucose spikes. Eating “naked carbs” – e.g., oatmeal with maple syrup – as a result contributes to crazy spikes.

(5) Metabolism works marginally faster during the day. This needs more testing. But it seems to be true so far.

I don’t think I’ll ever look at diet the same way again. More to follow.

“It does not matter how slowly you go so long as you do not stop.” | attributed to Confucius

As the wise sage Dory noted – keep swimming.

In the long run, our wellbeing is proportional to the proportion of time we spend choosing discomfort.

Moving instead of sitting.

Eating greens instead of sugar.

Trying something new instead of choosing the familiar.

Going for the difficult conversation.

Leaning into learning.

And so on.

A good rule of thumb – the most useful life and career advice comes from people who empathize with your circumstances.

The definition of strategy that I use in my day to day is that good strategy is defining the right sequence of steps that helps us navigate trade-offs and achieve the end outcome.

There are three key parts of this definition.

It starts with the end outcome. If we don’t have a clear goal, there’s no point writing a strategy.

Next, these is no strategy without trade-offs. Doing everything is not strategy. Good strategy makes clear what we won’t do and helps us navigate them.

Finally, sequence of steps. The order in which we do things matters a lot. Often, being early and being wrong are indistinguishable.

A friend shared this post from Julie Zhuo that had a powerful analogy – words as containers.

“A friend celebrated his 40th birthday the other day. He said, you know, the older I get, the more the cliches seem deeply true.

Cliches like, The days are long but the years are short. Or Having less is having more.

In my teens and 20s I rolled my eyes at statements like these.

They seemed like a soda can’s empty calories. Everywhere and cheap. No nuance, no inventiveness. The easiest thing to serve up when you don’t want to put in effort.

But now, when we utter them to each other — swallowing back the lump in the throat at a child’s birthday party, fingering an exquisite dress before walking away, offering gentle words to a partner after a hell of a week, or mari-kondo-ing the shit out of January — we glimpse the profundity of these so-called words of wisdom, as clear and essential as water.

What I failed to realize back then is that the words are merely containers.

In my teens, the containers were shallow, filled with black-and-white plotlines and youth’s arrogance.

But year over year, these containers gathered more memories. Hues of heartbreak. Textures of love. Mistakes and their sharp aftermaths, slowly eroding the edges of hubris.

The containers became fuller. And speaking their words felt like uttering prayers, like drinking in the past itself. Exquisite and complex. A prized wine growing ever finer.

That elixir is wisdom. How I wish we could drink of each others’ collections!

Oh, but we try. To weave that wisdom into our stories. To convey it in our art. To capture it in our words. Humanity’s best attempts become today’s cliches.

But all of these attempts are still containers, containers of all shapes and sizes, bouncing in our minds.

They have their value; after all, our minds are like houses — more likely to be tidy with a larger collection of containers.

But do not mix up the containers themselves with the wisdom inside them.

To my young-hearted friends: read and learn. Reflect and absorb.

But never forget: Wisdom is life itself.

Sometimes, there is no more advice left to give.

Sometimes, you must simply live.”

It is a beautiful visualization of how we experience the power of words differently with experience.

It resonated.