The key to getting rid of our annoying habits is reaching the point in our self-awareness where those habits annoy us as much as they annoy everyone else.
This requires two things.
First, we need to remove the defensiveness that stops us from honestly acknowledging how our actions land with others.
Second, we need to begin catching ourselves in the act — awareness during the action precedes awareness before the action.
This is easier said than done. But when we get here, we remove all the emotional barriers.
And the emotional barriers are the only barriers that matters.
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