As we talk to others about our decisions, it is easy to buy into the narrative that we make “the best” decisions. Our way worked fabulously for us after all. Maybe you should do as we did?
Of course, that isn’t true.
Just because it worked for us doesn’t mean it’ll work for someone else.
In such conversations, it helps to replace talking about the outcome (i.e. the decision) with an explanation of the process of how we got there. Once we share what we were optimizing for and how we ended up where we ended up, it becomes much easier for those listening to figure out what would apply to their situation.
Understanding ourselves and making decisions that work for us is a good thing. If we’re going to talk about it, let’s focus on how we might be able to help someone else.