That was really bad

Learning to replace “that was bad” with “it really needs work” isn’t just an exercise in politeness.

It is okay to be unfiltered. It isn’t okay to provoke shame – that is the refuge of the insecure.

Aside from extraneous situations in which we might attempt to stir emotion to inspire forward motion, framing feedback in a way that feels constructive is the effective choice – especially if we care about the long run.

It certainly is worth the effort.