Dealing with the unresolved

I wish there was a class on learning to deal with the unresolved. But, since there isn’t a good one that I know of, here’s what I’ve learned from the school of hard knocks.

The first step to dealing with the unresolved is accepting that there will always be something unresolved in our lives. We will always have to deal with the unknown, experience the fear of launching something new and walk into a game with trepidation knowing we are at a seemingly obvious disadvantage.

Sure, we can choose to worry. But, worry does nothing to solve the problem except make it seem worse.

Scott Peck beautifully pointed to the wisdom in accepting that life is difficult. As he eloquently put it, “once we truly know that life is difficult – once we truly understand and accept it – then life is no longer difficult. Because once it is accepted, the fact that life is difficult no longer matters.”

It works the same with dealing with the unresolved. We need to take the first step and accept that we will always have to deal with it.

There is no second step.

6 thoughts on “Dealing with the unresolved”

  1. The unresolved is my arch nemesis for sure, have found Pema Chodron’s writings on the topic so helpful. Comfortable With Uncertainty, The Wisdom of No Escape and, my all-time favorite, When Things Fall Apart. You cite M. Scott Peck often…The Road Less Traveled is, I think, genius. “Worry casts a long shadow on small things.” (forgot who said this the first time, wasn’t me.) All the best, Rohan.

    1. I loved the first few chapters of the road less traveled. Very profound. :) I was so so about the second half of the book.

      Worry casts a long shadow over small things. I love that! Thanks Mary Ellen!

  2. “God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change. The courage to change the things I can. And the wisdom to know the difference…”

  3. Besides the beautiful message in this article, i liked how you put that last line in the end – “There is no second step.”

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