In the “Road Less Traveled,” Scott Peck begins with –
“Life is difficult.
This is a great truth, one of the greatest truths. It is a great truth because once we truly see this truth, we transcend it. Once we truly know that life is difficult-once we truly understand and accept it-then life is no longer difficult. Because once it is accepted, the fact that life is difficult no longer matters.
When he dives into the topics of reflection and change, he raises the question – is it ever possible to become free from emotional pain in this life? And, the answer is yes and no. Yes, because once it is accepted, in a sense, it ceases to be pain. And, no, because competence brings with it responsibility and power. And, when you wield power, you need to make decisions and the process of making decisions with self awareness is a painful one.
I wrote about this a few weeks back when I shared how making it a habit to tell it as it is hasn’t gotten easier with time – even if I do it habitually. To this, Scott has a lovely response – “The best decision-makers are those who are willing to suffer the most over their decisions but still retain their ability to be decisive.”
I loved that. I’ve found that to be very true. And, to me, that speaks to the difference between aiming for non-attachment and detachment.
A dear friend recommended this book to me a few days ago and I decided to buy a paperback (an unusual occurrence but I’m finding myself drawn to paperbacks again, of late) and keep it by my bedside table. Such a good decision. I’ve found myself nodding once every paragraph. In Yoda’s style, this book would be described as – “Packed with wisdom, this is.”