I had a moment yesterday when I felt bad about something I said in passing. It stayed at the back of my mind for thirty minutes after the conversation.
The interesting thing was that one part of my brain was naturally finding ways to avoid the situation. For example, a couple of ideas it threw were to ask questions about a different topic we hadn’t spoken via text about to divert attention to something else.
After realizing this wasn’t going away, I decided to pick up my phone and text – except I expressed exactly what I was feeling and said I was feeling bad about that moment and wished I hadn’t said it.
The best part about doing the right thing is that you know it is the right thing the moment you’ve done it, regardless of the response. I felt lighter and better after that. I heard back later as well – all was good and we laughed it off.
I am a big fan of being direct. This was a nice reminder of its power – when you feel bad about something you said, just talk about it. So much of living life well is simple. The onus is on us to not complicate it.