Somebody sets the tone

Somebody does set the tone. A meeting can range from productive to friendly to creative to dead boring. A team’s culture can be one of warmth, care, or pure attrition. Friends could share a culture built around nicotine, baseball, or valuable conversations. Families can do tight hugs or awkward hugs.

Somebody, consciously or unconsciously sets the tone. It’s tempting to look to the boss or the inadvertent ‘alpha’ character to set the “right” tone. But, it isn’t always the boss or leader who sets the tone. They could probably consciously set a few aspects of the culture in place but they can’t do everything. And if they don’t it, somebody does.

And that somebody could very well be you.