Month: March 2012

The world has changed. Times have changed. Our education system hasn’t.

We’re still taught what to learn instead of focusing on how to learn.

The biggest value in education is for people to understand how they function. Every one of us learns differently. The current system works like a lottery. It works for a few who walk out with confidence a true understanding of how to learn. The rest walk out with a clear understanding of all the things they think they are not good at.

Luckily, the times are changing. We are in a golden period of sorts in terms of understanding basic concepts like behaviour, happiness, intelligence and probably most importantly, understanding how to manage ourselves. Relatively new fields like behavioural economics are make the waves.

And, as I was thinking about this and bouncing these ideas with many around me, I feel the following big shifts in our thinking will happen.

– Energy will be THE focus. We will move away from time management and focus on energy management. We will understand how to think of a day in terms of our energy instead of thinking of a day in terms of time.

– How I work will take precedence over how stuff works. This is where the magic lies. Education will be reshaped to help us understand how WE work and focus less on how stuff works.

– Focus on ‘different’ versus ‘intelligent’. The easy option is to look at a person and judge them as intelligent or not. That’s how we’re schooled. And we automatically do the same for ourselves (surprise surprise). The issue, of course, is that we are extremely hard when it comes to judging ourselves.

We will begin to focus on understanding our different gifts. We are already beginning to see this. Susan Cain gave a powerful talk on the power of introverts. The principles in her talk are right out of Myers Briggs, who was just way ahead of her time. Again, it links back to understanding how we get our energy and how we work.

– A Learning a Day or Fluid Mindset. There are already many studied being made on mindset. What we are learning now is that our intelligence is NOT fixed. The more we do, the more we can do. The more we can do, the better we will start doing what we already do. Maximizing our potential and being the best we can be will be our focus.

I am obviously optimistic when I call that ‘a learning a day’ but it is something I envision will be taught in schools. Kids need to realize that they only get better. It took me 19 years to understand that and then a couple more years to understand that I must stop judging myself harshly. It’s all about figuring out how we work and that’s hard enough. We learn as we go. We fail a lot. But, thank god for that because the more we fail, the smarter we get.

This is the future in my eyes. It is not going to be easy to make these systemic changes. We are going to face a lot of resistance. That’s life though.

On the bright side, change is the only constant thing in this world. The dinosaurs go away and the world moves on.

It’s only a matter of time. The future is bright.

As an kid growing up in India, cricket was the sport you simply had to follow. It is a sport most parts of the world don’t know much about but back home, cricket is a religion of sorts. If you’ve ever been to the UK and gotten a feel of the passion people here have for football, then you’ll have an inkling about how Indians feel about cricket.

It’s been many years now since I stopped following cricket regularly. I still check in on the scores once in a while and I did of course watch the last 3 games leading to the world cup win in 2011 but that’s more or less it. I’ve moved on in a way. Football is all I have time for these days.

The wonderful thing about sport for me is that it throws up unparalleled drama, heroes, villains, victims, beneficiaries – you name it and sport has it. And amidst all this drama, you have some incredibly gifted human beings carry out their craft and make watching it worthwhile. You experience their passion, their pain, their joy and their love for what they do. Over time, you watch most of these men of genius wilt under the spotlight of the media and cave in under the tremendous pressure on their young shoulders. The typical sportsman – arrogant, too rich to care and not worth emulating.

Then again, you have exceptions every once in a while. You see men who don’t take their excellence for granted, who don’t forget that Lady Luck isn’t one for long term relationships, who remember that their power comes with great responsibility and who, at the end of the day, remember that what defines them is beyond what they do. It’s who they are.

They become heroes. Every sport has it’s share. Whether it’s Sampras, Federer and Nadal in tennis or Maldini, Xavi and Scholes in football, we are witness to some truly amazing men of character. And as I was growing up as kid back home watching cricket, I was fortunate to witness a crop of players who went on to become legends of the game.

Rahul Dravid was one of them.

The other fascinating thing about sporting legends who are worthy role models is that they are typically of two very distinct kinds. The first kind are the geniuses. These were born to play the game and they did. Of course, they worked really hard. But, as hard as it was for them, it was also easy. They inspire awe.

The second kind are the gritty ones. These are the ones who fought their way through. They persisted when most others quit. They grew up surrounded by those who had talents they knew they would never possess. But, they never gave up. They persisted. They played for their teams. They made it on grit. They were the fighters who tasted success thanks to pure strength of will. And they tend to be great role models, for they inspire hope.

Rahul Dravid belonged to the second kind. He didn’t just belong to the second kind. He was the second kind. Watching Rahul Dravid approach a game was like watching an intense statistician go about his work. You never doubted his focus. You never doubted his application or intelligence. You saw the anger on his face when his concentration slipped. You felt the tension when he was going through a bad spell. And you just hoped he wasn’t being too hard on himself. He was the sort of person who would not have been out of place in a boardroom or in a gathering of intellectuals. Dignified, focused, determined, gritty, classy – Rahul Dravid stood for all these things. 

He decided to bow out in typical fashion – no fanfare, no last game tributes and the like. ‘I know this is the time.’ – he said in typical understatement. And with a typically dignified press conference, he bid farewell.

Accomplished writers have written great tributes. I couldn’t add much to what they’ve said even if I wanted to.

So, I’ll just say thank you. Thank you Rahul, for doing what great role models do – for giving the many of us who weren’t necessarily born with obvious god given talent the hope that with dedication, determination, persistence and hard work – we could make a difference.. just like you did.

It’s easy to forget that you are only 38. While you may have finished your journey as a sportsman, in many ways, you are just getting started.

Onwards and upwards then. I join many in wishing you well knowing fully well that you will be incredibly successful in whatever you choose to do thanks to everything you stand for.

Respect.

We grow up in a world where the importance of the ‘right’ answer is reinforced constantly. Our education shapes us and we take what we learn (well, some of it at least) to the working world.

Call it ‘figuring it out’ or ‘cracking the nut’, that’s what the smartest students do best. See a question. Identify the kind of problem. Recall a formula or method used before. Solve the answer. Well done. That’s very smart.

It’s all about the answers. It’s all about solving problems. And it’s a skill we generally pick up, to varying degrees of excellence. Then, depending on the kind of career we are on, we probably problem solve and analyse our way up. That’s when we hit the big wall.

We suddenly find out that the process of finding an answer doesn’t really matter. The answer? Even less so.

To climb the wall, we need to do something we haven’t done for a long time – ask the right questions. That’s where real value is. That’s where the magic lies.

Great answers never change lives. Great questions do. Questions lead. Answers follow.

As kids, we get this right. We ask many questions. And then, over time, we stop asking them as we get sucked into the illusion of finding answers. Perhaps that stems from our human need for (the illusion of) control. Answers close out all the possibilities and leave us with one option.

The reality, of course, is that the possibilities are endless. And what we do and where we go depends entirely on the questions we ask.

Thank god Newton paused to ask a question while he amidst answering some..

Seth Godin had a post yesterday that resonated with me.

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Doing it wrong, relentlessly

According to this post by Neil Patel, I blog incorrectly–missing on at least 7 of his twelve rules.

On purpose.

I’m not writing to maximize my SEO or conversion or even my readership. I’m writing to do justice to the things I notice, to the ideas in my head and to the people who choose to read my work.

The interesting lesson: One way to work the system is to work the system. The other way is to refuse to work it.

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I couldn’t agree more. One way to approach something is to seek to optimize the experience. There are many ways to do that as a blogger – optimize your search engine optimization, comment on as many blogs as you can to spread your net wide etc etc.

I tend to shudder at optimization because it tends to bring with it a limited view of what the journey can bring us. Continuing on the blogging example – our purpose, all of a sudden, becomes to optimize page views. I just don’t find it inspiring. Maybe it’s because I find it hard to believe that we can genuinely care about being popular above all else.

There are a couple of problems with that. If we aren’t insanely good at what we do, the popularity isn’t likely to last. And, if our focus is popularity, the chances of becoming insanely good take a dive.

We only have 24 hours in a day and, while the days are long, the years are typically very short. If we don’t spend the time we have doing things we care about, what are we doing?

I guess it comes down to that wonderful question Clayton Christensen once asked, How will you measure your life?

My view – don’t do it only because it will look good. Do it because you care.. it shows.

I just read a very nice note from an acquaintance/old friend on Facebook. It was one of those notes that had me nodding as I was reading it. It took me about two minutes and I was just about to close the tab on it.

I paused. ‘Why am I not telling him so?’ said a voice in my head

‘Why bother? Would it make a difference?’

‘What if you had been in his place? ‘

‘Touche. No excuses then.’

I spent an extra minute thinking about what I wanted to say and did. And at that moment, I realized how much of an effort contributing takes, particularly when you know the person. 

A close friend of mine had an interesting theory about social media. We were discussing the modern ability of building followership thanks to blogs, twitter etc. His insight was that you can only do that if you have more new/online friend followers than existing friend followers. You will grow the moment the ratio tips.

Interesting, isn’t it?

His rational was that existing friends friends who like the content you create are less likely to do things that help your presence – retweet, comment, share, like etc. Essentially, existing friends are happier reading versus contributing. And that’s not only because it takes effort. There’s just some social baggage that tends to hold us back..

Today, I fully appreciated the wisdom behind his point. I also know that, even as a new/online friend, the switch to contributing was a tough jump.

And I thought I’d write in to let you guys know that I really appreciate the effort so many of you make to write about your meaningful experiences, learnings and stories in the comments. The past month or so has been a real treat with a few comments on every post and I work hard to make sure I keep up the commitment from my side too. Even on days like today when I’m behind on my email, I work to make sure that I have replied to every comment.

It’s my way of saying ‘I love you guys too!’ :-) And again, thank you. There are few things that equal the excitement of getting a reaction on something you share – your additional thoughts, points of views, criticisms, thank you’s – they all count!

I also thought about a note I received from a regular reader of this blog over the weekend. She mentioned that she always sets out to comment but is always stopped by company policy that makes Disqus/social media inaccessible. I bet she’s not alone. Thanks to those of you who write in every once in a while sharing your thoughts. Those emails never fail to make my day. (Of course, I’m hoping you guys will take your phone out and comment in the future.. haha.)

The final thought that came to mind was about the golden rule. We often think of the golden rule when we think of things we should not do. We shouldn’t do to others what we wouldn’t want done to us, after all.

I find that I very rarely think of it in terms of things I should do. And, like today, I found that that small question inspired a small change in behavior, a rush of gratitude and then the post for the day.

Must do more often.

Over the past 2 months, I’ve regularly been on a 2 hour commute to work. And yes, that’s 2 hours one way. And no, it’s not exactly 2 hours. It’s probably around 1 hour 45 minutes but 2 hours sounds a tad more heroic.

It isn’t a long term thing of course. If it was, I would have shifted closer to my new temporary place of work. But I’ve had a few meaningful lessons through this experience.

The first lesson is an understanding of the effect something can have on your mind. It took about two weeks before the commute stopped becoming a big deal in my head. Two whole weeks! The learning here was to ignore stuff my mind blows out of proportion.

The second lesson is that this is a truly wonderful time to be alive. Thanks to technology, I have enough and more to do during this time – listen to audio books, clear out my email, catch up on my google reader, make phone calls among others. Spoilt for choice really.

The third lesson is that choices are not good for happiness. They make us unhappy. This was evident in my first couple of weeks when I was toying with the idea of finding a place close to the new workplace temporarily. Every day, the debate raged – should I? should I not? There wasn’t a clear answer. So, I was wisely advised to shut down the other option and get on with it. And of course, revisit it if necessary.

The fourth lesson is the the amazing thing about making decisions. Decisions close doors. And if there’s a problem, you can make another decision to change things anyway.

The fifth lesson is the power of context. In 1 hour 45 minutes, you can take a round trip around Singapore (more or less). But, 1 hour 45 minutes only gets you from the centre to one end of London. Thanks to the average commute in London being 1 hour 15 minutes, this doesn’t feel all that bad. However, in Singapore, this would be madness.

I remember a similar experience in the middle east where driving 2 hours every day was seen as no big deal.

It’s all relative.

This final lesson is the most important one. It’s the magic of perspective. My mom told me a story in the early days when I was still struggling with the idea of the commute.

There was a monk who decided to climb a peak so he could meditate right on top. It took him 1 painful week to climb up but the experience on top was incredible. So, he did it again. And again and again until climbing up the peak was no big deal. Whether something is a  mountain or molehill depends your perspective.

I think she made the story up to suit the situation. But, it turned out to be one hell of a story. Our perspective does indeed make all the difference in the world.

Oh, and finally, I also find myself smiling at the amazing story value this experience would have. Imagine telling my grandkids ‘When I was your age, I used to commute 2 hours and never complain..’

Now THAT would be fun..

Three years or so ago, I was on my way back to university by the MRT in Singapore. I met Anoj, a fellow university student who was in his final semester after a long time. We didn’t know each other too well and had had a bit of a stormy acquaintanceship in the past (haha). Luckily, that didn’t get in the way of us talking about our plans of the future.

He spoke of an idea he was working on – Microfinance to help India’s poor. They were about to begin with a pilot to see if the idea was feasible before embarking on the journey full time.

Three years later, Milaap has gone on to raise $200,000 and change 4,000 lives. All this with a 100% repayment rate. If that isn’t amazing, I don’t know what is!

The concept is simple – Nagendra, a 35 year old, needs around $1000 of capital to set up a handicraft business to manufacture bags and cushions. The capital would enable him to purchase raw materials and now, thanks to Milaap, he has access to lenders who would enable him to have the money. He expects to pay it back in monthly instalments over the next 2 years.

Or let’s take a more pressing issue – water. Milaap estimates that 500 million people, 50% of India’s population, do not have access to clean drinking water. And just a loan of $24 could help provide drinking water for a person for life.

This is of course not charity. You can choose to think of it as such but at the current moment, the loan repayment rate has been 100%.

2 friends of mine decided to take it a step further yesterday. Vikram and Shiva cycled 24 km in a campaign to raise awareness for water. Their employers have agreed to match the first $1,500 received. Here’s a video of an exhausted Vikram explaining why they did it.