‘Unpleasant‘ can range from unexpected to simply annoying at that point of time..
You’re readying your strong irritated response.
My advice from recent experience – ‘File it away’
The outcome is never going to be good and you’ll probably look at the email with a smile when you open it tomorrow. And you’ll wonder why you reacted so strongly in the first place.
Our annoyance (directed at others) is a result of our annoyance at some event during that day. Let’s contain it, and move on..
There is a school of thought that questions this. ‘Why internalize?’ they ask. Why think of yourself as the cause when it’s not always the case?
I agree with them – it is not always the case but it is useful to internalize it just for the fact that it puts us in total control of our own lives, reactions and emotions..