Context..

It’s like the old saying –

20 dollars seems to be too big a donation at a place of worship, but seems like absolutely nothing when we enter a bar..

6-7 hours a day in an office in my start up days were SO exciting and so were 6-7 hours spent planning Sparkz.. the feeling is different for my final year project lab, I assure you..

2 things that I see –

1) It’s all in the mind..
2) There are some who are born to do research and some others who aren’t. I definitely fall in the latter category..

Can’t wait to finish..

Bad results, good day..

Today brought together a couple of not-so-good results from the past.

But, work wise, was as productive as I could have hoped for.

What I have realized is that things take time and the results were a result of a not-so-good day a week ago or so. So, the results from today should flow in too..

The good happens when we don’t let the bad result feeling spill and spoil the on-going good day. I think I managed to avoid that.. just.

Once again, some things take time.. sowing seeds is the best option for today! :)

The Hug..

For the next time we hug someone..

Let’s just hug..

Forget the worries – life is full of them, and just hug..

Full on, hold tight and not let go.. (till the person on the receiving end says – Hey, you’re strangling me.. That’d be a start..)

Not the quick 2 second timed touch-and-go hug..

Not the 1 sided put-arm-around-the-other-person’s-shoulder hug..

Not the acknowledgement of oh-yes-we-need-to-touch-other kind of hug..

But, the give-myself-completely-to-the-other-person kind of hug..

What are we afraid or wary of?

That our vulnerability is going to be touched?

That the people watching will take a photo and put it on facebook? or gossip about it?

For the same sex, that is it is gay? What about our macho footballers then, who hug and kiss each other when they celebrate a goal? Is that gay?

..
Hug..

Let’s leave a small piece of ourselves with others..

Because we never know when we’ll need it back..

and besides, it’s our ability to love that makes us humane – not just human, but humane

and most importantly, when we look at our life’s defining moments, it’s little things like this that change the course of our short stay on this planet..

Over to FYP (a.k.a final year project for the uninitiated) now. Pity it isn’t human and pity hugs don’t work.. :)

Some things take time..

9 women can’t make a baby in a month..

And this applies all the more with big decisions we take. When we do take these big decisions, it often takes some time to digest them and let them sync in.

I guess the most important learning is – ‘Let it!

With people – fast is slow and slow is fast..

A lot boils down to acceptance..

Some days you are the pigeon and some days you are the statue..

Do we like to accept it though?

A nice framework I’ve heard about when it comes to accepting tragedy is DABDA

i.e.

Denial – Obviously it didn’t happen..

Anger – Generally, with the world..

Bargaining – Obviously, things can be the same again..

Depression – Realization and sadness..

Acceptance – Finally.. only now comes solution..

This could be applied to making big mistakes as well. However, ‘denial’ can always be misused as even a person telling the truth can be mistaken as someone denying it.