This is the second time this learning is coming but extremely vital considering I’m still jumping off the blocks and knocking things over. Today, an email was sent a tad too early and sadly emails/like words can’t be taken back.. speaking of which a lovely story does come to mind!
There was a young kid who used to always throw fits. This kid was always angry, yelling and throwing a fit at the slightest instance. One day, his father, fed up of the behavior asked the child to hammer nails into the wooden wall at the back of the house everytime he was angry. Gradually, the child began to take great pride in not hammering nails and finally came to his father and told him it had been his third day in a row when he hadn’t gotten angry. At this point, the dad asked him to look at the wall. He said – ‘Son, you see, while you have conquered your anger – the wall will never be the same again, even if you try to remove the nails! Remember, it works the same way with words..’
just say ‘God. I guess you’ve had a very bad day.. I don’t understand what’s going wrong and am sure we can talk about it..’
attract! Not true in the magnetic sense but very true in the human relationships sense. Nice insight into psychology that says if you’d like to be liked, then try and focus on similarities..
Contrary to popular thought..but psychologically true.. and more importantly, it makes sense! Aren’t we all excited when we meet people who support the same football club for example – all of a sudden there’s just SO much more to talk about..
Good. That means you’ve stood up for something, sometime in your life.” – Winston Churchill
I found myself meandering through a long post about something I’d learned from the law of averages. And then..just undid what I wrote and wrote this. We can’t be liked by everyone, can we? After all..its all about the law of averages.. ;)
must be correct! Hmm..thats a tricky statement. But well, what that really means is try and check what comes out of that mouth. :) Well.. lets take me for an example.. for a long long time, I was a perfect example of fluff when it came to numbers! I would always get my numbers wrong – 25 would become 45 and 1000 would become 1500(not always on the increase but yeah..). Its only now that I have begun thinking twice before coming out with the first thing on my mind. Lucky for me, I was with people for whom numbers were sacred and caught me by checking..
The point is that I can’t obviously rely on this police-ing system. What I say better be checked, and right.. takes going that extra mile – but doesn’t anything good require just that?
Yes, I have done the unforgivable! Missed yesterday.. Post Mortem – It was a day dedicated to that wonderful thing – sleep! A blissful 24+ hours at a stretch(well..save for a 2 hour journey in between) was just fantastic. There were times when I was wondering if I should be up; there’s no lack of stuff to do. But eventually, decided against it..
That’s really my learning – if you need rest, just go for it!
Well..the usual maxim. Its really good to go slow and easy as I am beginning to understand. I never really understood the meaning of ‘slow..steady..easy’ etc. I’ve been the opposite at all points in my life. Its like – if I’m told.. ‘hey..can you get me a coffee’ – I go bolt! Full speed ahead and generally end up knocking a few things, people etc. In this mad rush for well..everything.. am generally always knocking something or the other. Take today for example(I’m consciously moving a bit slower now.. but even then), I walked into a room in a hurry and stepped on mail. There was that moment when I knew the door was opening slowly because of some obstruction but before I could stop, I’d stepped on the mail.. just an example..
Anyway.. I guess the biggest benefit of moving slow is that we get time to think. I used to do this a lot in the ‘on the spot’ speech competitions. After given the topic, I would generally walk up slow, maybe trip on the stairs if I can pull it off, adjust the mic, cough, test it and then start. All to buy some precious thinking time of course.. ;). Well..thinking is good.. even when you’re walking into a room. As always, a small detail that can kill.. :D