Nomophobia

I heard the term “Nomophobia” or “No mobile phobia” for the first time a few weeks ago. It refers to the anxiety of not having a working mobile phone. It is considered a behavioral addiction.

Given how ever present my phone is in my life on daily basis, I was curious if I was Nomophobic. So I took the opportunity to disconnect completely over two weeks this summer. On past breaks, I’d still check my phone once or twice a day. This time, it would be a complete switch off.

So I scheduled 14 days worth of posts, switched my phone off, and put in my bag.

The ability to completely disconnect from all kinds of information/news felt… wonderful. I came back more refreshed than ever.

I’d like to do it more often.

Water – friend and enemy

“It is hard to make that boat go as fast as you want to. The enemy, of course, is resistance of the water, as you have to displace the amount of water equal to the weight of men and equipment, but that very water is what supports you and that very enemy is your friend.

So is life: the very problems you must overcome also support you and make you stronger in overcoming them.”| George Yeoman Pocock – legendary row boat builder

Wise and powerful.

It resonated.

A lot of mistakes

“Joy, you’ve made a lot of mistakes and you’ll make a whole lot more in the future, but if you let *that* stop you, *we* might as well lie down and give up.” | Anger, Inside Out 2

“Inside Out 2” was chock full of beautiful quotes and lessons. Perhaps the most important of them all was the importance of taking all kinds of experiences – good, bad, disappointing, frustrating, and the like – in our stride. Embracing the many emotions that come with these experiences helps us build a healthy sense of self.

And it is only when we learn to face our mistakes and embarrassments head on do we realize the wisdom in Anger’s words above. We’ve made a lot of mistakes… and we’ll make a whole lot more.

Can’t let that stop us.

Appropriate loading

Brad Stulberg had an insightful post on appropriate loading on his newsletter that I thought I’d share in full.

A fews weeks back, I tweaked my calf on a deep pendulum squat. I proceeded to have a brief conversation with a physical therapist who trains at my gym. He recommended two rehabilitation exercises. I thanked him and, without really thinking, added, “I’ll do these exercises and otherwise rest it for a bit.”

He almost immediately corrected me: “No, you’ll do these exercises and appropriately load your calf otherwise.”

Over the last decade, there’s been a shift in sports medicine away from straight rest and toward appropriate loading. The gist is that when you experience an injury, instead of shutting things down completely, you want to continue to use that body part to the extent you can, even if it causes some acute discomfort. So long as the pain doesn’t increase the next day, you’re on the right track.

Appropriate loading does two important things: the first is that instead of creating a mindset of fragility and fear (e.g., I need to protect this body part or else) it creates a mindset of strength and progress (e.g., I am strong and resilient and can continue to use this body part, albeit with adjustments.) It’s a significant shift, especially since we know that pain is not just in the bones and tissues but also in the brain and central nervous system. If you completely shut down an injury, you are telling the brain and central nervous system to turn the alarm system on high, predict pain with any usage, and immediately label that pain as bad. This often leads to increased pain once you finally resume using the affected body part, even if the injury is “healed.” By continuing to load the injured area, however, you are preventing the alarm system from becoming overly sensitive.

The second benefit of appropriate loading is that it gives the affected tissue or bone a stimulus to respond to. Instead of letting an injured body part sit there and atrophy, you are maintaining at least some strength and helping to promote the recovery process by increasing blood flow.

To be clear, if you’ve suffered a major injury and are experiencing uncontrolled inflammation, you may very well want to shut things down completely for a period of time. But even then, current best practices would likely have you begin loading the injury sooner than you may think.

Appropriate loading is a useful concept beyond tissue and bone. It’s core tenets apply to all the injuries we face in life—from the psychological to the relational to the cognitive.

Whether it’s a failure in the workplace, a fight with a friend or a significant other, or an experience that triggers anxiety and subsequent avoidance, we can ask ourselves: How might I appropriately load this situation?

Shutting things down completely, repressing, or ignoring a problem often makes it worse. Much like the body has an alarm system for physical pain, the mind has an alarm system for psychosocial pain. When you try to come back and confront whatever the situation is, the longer and more fervently you’ve avoided it, the harder it becomes. This can lead to a cycle of avoidance and repression that festers and becomes chronic, no different than physical pain.

But it’s equally true that pushing too hard, pretending that nothing is wrong, or trying to plow through a legitimately challenging or painful situation is also detrimental.

Appropriate loading asks you to take stock of the situation and reflect on the right amount of stimulus to promote progress, even if applying that stimulus is uncomfortable in the moment.

Here are a few examples of how appropriate loading may play out in common life challenges:

  • Confronting the other party following a serious argument, acknowledging the hurt, and discussing how best to move forward instead of retreating behind a wall of silence in which resentments and anger fester.
  • Getting back to work on the next project within a day or two of a disappointing failure or defeat instead of wallowing in sadness and giving it a chance to turn into despair.
  • Facing the causes of your anxieties instead of avoiding them and thus feeding into a cycle of avoidant fear.

No different than a physical injury, the amount of load (and its timing) will differ based on the situation. In some instances, you may need a brief period of complete rest (e.g., a cooldown period to let the equivalent of acute inflammation—perhaps anger, fear or frustration—reside). But what matters is that you start loading the affected area of your life as soon as you can. It’s not blind loading or reckless loading—it’s appropriate loading.

It is another manifestation of choosing to stretch beyond our comfort zone while not stepping into the panic zone.

It resonated.

Managing money – the equations that matter

The equations that matter when we manage money – for our personal lives or our organizations – are simple:

(1) Viability = Our Income – our Expenses/”Burn”

Implications:
(a) If we aren’t viable, we must get viable by reducing our burn.
(b) The closer our burn is to our income, the more attention we must pay to it. Micro-optimizations go a long way. The reverse is also true.

(2) Wealth = when viability is generated from our principal/investments.

This is the powerful thing about thing about being wealthy. If you have a low burn and have enough in savings/investments that covers your spending with a little to spare, you are wealthy. Any income from work or projects is upside that goes into making the principal bigger.

The flip side is also true. You could be earning in the highest tax bracket. However, if your burn isn’t paid for by the money from your principal, you aren’t wealthy.

Implications:
(a) The younger we are, the more it makes sense to invest aggressively. This means reinvesting our dividends and savings back into making our principal bigger for future years. The best analogy is climbing up a mountain. It is hard on the way up and correspondingly easy on the way down. There’s no middle ground.

(b) The second is that it helps to have a cushion for unforeseen circumstances when we’re attempting to build wealth. The size of this cushion is a personal preference and will depend on life circumstances – depending on kids, mortgage, etc. There are rules of thumb – e.g., 6 months in your early 20s, 12-18 months in your 30s – but your mileage may vary.

First, be viable. Then intentionally work towards getting financially wealthy.

Along the way, you’ll likely realize that financial wealth isn’t the only kind of wealth that matters. More on this soon.

Caterpillar invasion

“Rhoades [zoologist and chemist] had watched a nearby forest be decimated by an invasion of caterpillars. But then something suddenly changed; the caterpillars began to die. Why? The answer, Rhoades discovered, was that the trees were communicating with one another. Trees that the caterpillars hadn’t yet reached were ready: They’d changed the composition of their leaves, turning them into weapons that would poison, and eventually kill, the caterpillars.

Scientists were beginning to understand that trees communicate through their roots, but this was different. The trees, too far apart to be connected by a root system, were signaling to one another through the air. Plants are tremendous at chemical synthesis, Rhoades knew. And certain plant chemicals drift through the air. Everyone already understood that ripening fruit produces airborne ethylene, for example, which prompts nearby fruit to ripen too. It wasn’t unreasonable to imagine that plant chemicals containing other information—say, that the forest was under attack—might also drift through the air.” (From Zoe’s Atlantic piece)

I read this excerpt just after learning about how giraffe’s feed on Acacia trees. When a giraffe begins feeding on a tree, it releases ethylene gas as a distress signal. As soon as the gas reaches the next tree, it increases Tanin levels in its leaves, immediately making them bitter. This ensures they save their community from overgrazing.

As time passes, I expect us to ascribe traits like intelligence and consciousness to plants – just as we do with animals today.

Much to learn about all this magic, we have.

Extraordinary results and our pain threshold

Performing at the top of any field is often just an exercise in raising our pain threshold.

This pain might be physical, emotional, or mental. But the willingness to endure extraordinary pain to perform at the highest level is often the one thing that professionals at the top of their game – whether they’re athletes, entrepreneurs, artists, researchers, or executives – have in common.