The difficulty in an argument is not to generalize..

for eg: I am arguing with this friend who I just kicked(by mistake) during a football game. I am tempted to shout at him saying ‘You always kick me. I don’t think you think of anything except the ball. And I don’t think you will ever learn because you always do it..’.

The great thing is that this is great feedback! I do know that I need to work on my aggression. However, what makes it difficult to stomach is the ‘always’ bit.. we lose that when are emotional.

The ‘always’ often stops any rational discussion. So, beware generalizing.. :) Having been on both sides of this just like everyone else, I guess I know it is very easy to generalize and infinitely tougher to accept feedback once generalization has been done..

Another question is – what if it is true that it is done always. For eg: if it is something like eating properly with knife and fork. Even then, I feel it is helpful stating the situation that has just occurred.. and if the person is of good character.. he will ask you at some point if he/she can improve..

Now I am assuming that we are helping someone we believe has a good character… :)

Don’t buy it when a character accusation is made..

there are things we know.. there are things we don’t..

‘Never give up on anyone..miracles happen every day’..

And believe in the miracle.. if you dont see it happening.. ha ha..

It hurts when such an accusation is made though. Its good to understand that there is lot of caring behind the whole veil of anger etc. In my case, I do know I have very less awareness about things that happen around me. For instance, I am generally not as aware of the small things as I should be.. and I do know I can improve on my sensitivity.. but that doesnt mean I am unaware..

because..there are times I do surprise myself..he he..

And the grand finale..

Its amazing how much of a difference laughter makes to our lives. Let’s keep laughing.. if we can’t find jokes.. lets just look at ourselves and remember a few of the dumbest things we have done..and just laugh.. and look back..and remember that other time when you said something hilariously dumb..the other time you wore something ridiculous..and just laugh..

Ha ha ha.. (I’ve started..have you?)