Month: April 2025

One of the most fascinating truths about life is that our perception of an event is, more often than not, less about the event and more about the lens with which we choose to view it.

Most things are simply what we make of them.

“Before a dream is realized, the Soul of the World tests everything that was learned along the way. It does this not because it is evil, but so that we can, in addition to realizing our dreams, master the lessons we’ve learned as we’ve moved toward that dream. That’s the point at which most people give up. It’s the point at which, as we say in the language of the desert, one ‘dies of thirst just when the palm trees have appeared on the horizon.” | Paulo Coelho, The Alchemist

It’s been many years since I’ve read the Alchemist. It felt magical then as it had this quality that just made you believe in possibility.

And this quote reminded me of that magic.

There’s a lovely bit of advice that Chilli Heeler, Bluey’s mom, shares in an episode of the show. She gives her daughter, Bingo, a checklist to cope with setbacks.

Of course, it becomes that combination of adorable and memorable when Bingo repeats that checklist later when faced with a setback. She goes –

“Have a cry…
Pick myself up…
Dust myself off…
And keep going. The show must go on!”

The show must go on indeed.

A checklist for the ages.

“This is the essence of the transaction between storyteller and audience. The “true” story is not the one that exists in my mind; it is certainly not the written words on the bound paper that you hold in your hands. The story in my mind is nothing but a hope; the text of the story is the tool I created in order to try to make that hope a reality. The story itself, the true story, is the one that the audience members create in their minds, guided and shaped by my text, but then transformed, elucidated, expanded, edited, and clarified by their own experience, their own desires, their own hopes and fears.

The story of Ender’s Game is not this book though it has that title emblazoned on it. The story is one that you and I will construct together in your memory. If the story means anything to you at all, then when you. remember it afterward, think of it, not as something I created, but rather as something that we made together.” | Orson Scott Card

This was beautifully written and is a beautiful way of thinking about storytelling.

It resonated.

Whenever you attempt to build something good, there’s that pivotal moment when you’re just about to ship that’s equal parts humbling and nerve wracking.

It is the moment when you hand over what you’ve built to your users for their judgment and just say – “Here, we made this. We hope you find it useful.”

It almost doesn’t matter how much user validation you’ve done prior. You just find yourself wondering if the trade-offs you made for this first version were the right ones. You hope the good outweighs the issues (for there always are issues).

How it pans out matters in the short-run. It decides the fate of teams and even whole companies, adds or removes career significant momentum, and so on.

In the long run however, it matters most that we just keep at it and keep improving our process.

Keep shipping, and keep getting better at how we ship.

In time, we’ll develop the taste and ability to make better things.

I heard of impact in software development being articulated as a function of value, scale, and speed recently.

While every such formula can be debated, it felt like a reasonable stake in the ground.

It got me thinking about other such words I use without considering what I mean when I’m using it.

There’s power in specificity and shared language.

Over the long run, it matters less how often you’re the best at whatever you take on, and matters more how often you give your best to whatever you take on.

Periodic reminder that it is at least a million times harder to build something valuable than it is to destroy it.

“No experience is in itself a cause of our success or failure. We do not suffer from the shock of our experiences—the so-called trauma—but instead we make out of them whatever suits our purposes.” | Fumitake Koga and Ichiro Kishimi, The Courage to Be Disliked

The Courage to Be Disliked has been a fascinating exploration of Alderian psychology so far.

This was one of those lines that gave me pause. It resonated.

There was a lovely moment in the Acquired podcast episode with Howard Schultz where they discussed the Starbucks mobile app.

Howard’s reflection was that while the mobile app was undoubtedly seductive, the trade-off is that it has significantly hit the Starbucks experience. It replaced that intimate connection between barista and customer with a connection with the app.

There was a moment around then when one of the podcast hosts said – “I look at the mobile app and see which Starbucks around me is accepting mobile orders. If a store isn’t accepting mobile orders, I don’t go there.”

“That breaks my heart.” was Howard’s pithy response.

I was struck by this discussion and reflection. Every growth strategy has trade-offs. I’m sure the numbers from Starbucks’ app made the strategy feel trade-off free. Higher utilization, record usage, and so on.

But the trade-offs existed. And it would have taken a very disciplined and thoughtful team to say no to immediate explosive growth.

It’s just really hard to do.

Every decade has a few breakout hit – ChatGPT, for example, looks to be that business for this decade. Outside of a few other exceptions, you are just doing your best to eke out some respectable set of growth numbers.

And, in the face of those challenges, saying no to something that makes you money is the test of all tests.

Then again, values aren’t values unless they cost us money.

That’s why it is infinitely easier to talk about values than it is to live by them.