When feedback works

I’ve noticed that feedback works in 3 situations:

1. “I am asking for feedback and am ready for it. Please give it to me straight.”

2. “You have feedback for me? I feel psychologically safe with you and trust your intentions – so, yes, please give it to me.”

3. “I report to you/believe you have power over my career/life. I will attempt to act on it even if I don’t agree.”

In all other situations, attempts at giving feedback end up achieving nothing.