The less help you ask for and need, the more help you get.
The less money you need, the more bank loans and credit cards are offered to you
The less friends you need, the more friends you make.
The less you care about failure, the more you succeed.
The principle here is that most good things in life can’t be pursued. They ensue. Sure, you can pursue a title or an achievement. But, when you look at things that make you happy – peaceful sleep, engaging work, good relationships – they often ensue.
Of course, that’s easier said than done. And, of course, all of this means making choices that require us to need less, spend less, love unconditionally more, work much harder and with purpose, and to embrace failure and the stupidity that we feel when we learn something new.
That can either be liberating or depressing.
As always, your choice.
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Hat tip to the great Viktor Frankl for the spotting the ensue vs. pursue principle half a century ago.
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