I had a comment from a friend on yesterday’s post on playing the long game. He said –
“This post pretty much summarises how quite a bit of my time is spent. Obsessing over results and result or resume driven growth is something I find myself guilty of quite often. The frustrations that follow should be expected but feel new every – time. I guess going long on these things is quite difficult given how caught up we get in daily pursuits and expectations :) Nevertheless, will try it out.”
My response was – “Welcome to the struggle my friend. It is a worthy fight!”
My biggest motivation behind writing here every day is that the process of doing so clarifies these ideas in my head and helps me learn and get better. I have worked very hard over the past six and a half years to be worthy of the ideas and ideals that this blog stands for. And, most things I write here are stuff I’m struggling with.
As you can probably tell, the biggest learning focus in my life at the moment is to focus entirely on the process and not worry about results. And, if you’ve been following this blog regularly, you’ve seen many posts that say as much. I can’t explain how hard this has been for me over the years. I used to beat myself up when I made mistakes and ended up losing twice at the end of it. I’ve learnt that that is useless. Every minute spent on outcomes is a minute taken away from the process and the next result. Success is best measured by a great journey. And, great journeys generally take us to great places (and, if they don’t, the journey is where spent our time anyway!). And, I think I am much better at being truly forward looking now than I was a couple of years ago. There is still a long way to go though.
There isn’t any easy way out. The way forward is painful. But, the journey is one that involves growth, learning, and wisdom. So, if these ideas resonate with you and if you feel that feeling of frustration from time to time, all I will say is – welcome to the club.
I understand your frustration and pain. But, if it makes you feel any better, this is how we get made..