6 months into my marriage, I’ve learned a thing or two about making a marriage work. I had lived largely by myself for the 2 preceding years and this means everything works as per your rules. Being married is very different. I’d even say that it is different even if you’ve lived in together. There’s a permanence about it that adds an extra dimension.
A big learning that’s helped me be a slightly better spouse is to let the small things pass.
If ever there was any pretence about your moods or habits (both good and bad) prior to your wedding, it’s all sure to breakdown once you spend most waking minutes at home together. And, accept it or not, we all have our moods.
There was one such moody moment a few days ago when I recall feeling tempted to snap during a short exchange. There are many variables that could have caused this – my mood, my wife’s mood, the topic of exchange, and so on. Such things happen from time to time. But, as I find myself feeling I was treated unfair, I find it worth remembering that I’m not a beacon of fairness. We all have our inconsistencies. We all slip. Let’s call on a little self awareness, learn to laugh at ourselves, and let the small things pass.
The difference between a mountain and a mole hill, very often, is just one of perspective. Don’t make the small things bigger than they should be and make sure these little moments are spent happy, for it’s all these little moments that make up a lifetime.
A Learning a Day 