Most new year resolutions fail for 2 reasons –
1. We don’t build in room for misses – for example, we resolve to exercise 5 times a week every week of the year.
2. We hit ourselves so hard when we miss for the first time that we don’t allow ourselves to recover.
1 is not smart. However, that habit can be unlearned over time.
Hitting ourselves so hard when we miss is much harder to unlearn. The next time you do it, remember to tell yourself that it is not the right thing to do. It isn’t going to help you now or ever – you’re only being a coward indulging in sabotage. You’re allowing the resistance an easy victory.
The next time you miss a goal or target you wanted to hit, be nice to yourself. Allowing yourself to recover from a miss is not just the kind thing to do.. in the long run, it’s the clever thing to do.
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