Committed to a new habit. Two weeks in, found it really hard to do and kept missing commitments. Kicked self for being unable to do it. Felt right.
Took the habit off the list. Moved on to other things.
It’s tempting to think that beating yourself severely (“You aren’t capable of doing this. The others who do it have a talent you don’t.”) is a virtuous thing. It isn’t. It reeks of playing the short game. It reeks of “let me give this daily dancing habit a try.”
It’s the cowardly choice.
Courage lies in beating yourself up just a bit, using that fire to build a system that works the next day, and iterating till it just works.
Courage is in playing the long game.
(Yes, it still might not work. At least you gave it everything you got..)